Have you ever thought how it’s possible to love your child deeply but not act lovingly toward them? It’s a hard concept to understand, but I have found it to be true of myself sometimes during our schooling. Yes, I love my daughter deeply. I pray that is obvious to them and to you. But I find that I have been unloving towards the way I handle her at times with school.
This past Sunday I heard a message about love. When we don’t show love, then what good is it? We know this to be true, but how can we know we are actually being loving. One way is to put our own name into first Corinthians. After I did this for myself, I came to realize I am loving towards my husband, friends, and most strangers. Many times, though, I am not loving towards my own child during school.
The problem is, I often get frustrated when I think she should know something that doesn’t. I find myself comparing her performance and behavior to children in public school, and how I was expected to perform when I was in elementary school. These blind expectations have motivated my teaching too often, more so than my respect and love for my own child. It’s hard to admit this, especially since it goes against our reasons for homeschooling. I mean, how horrible is it that I’m nicer to the guy who does Carpet Cleaning in Mobile, AL than I am to my own child?
So, I am challenging myself to act lovingly toward my child throughout the school day. I will show patience and kindness, and be the kind of mom I need to be to my daughter. Simply being at home for my daughter and homeschooling her is not loving. The loving happens as I encourage her and use the tone of voice that shows her my love. Otherwise, she may grow up with a definition of love that is not accurate. If you struggle with this also, I encourage you to reevaluate yourself and challenge the areas you need help with.